unassailable asexual

a revolution for the crooked souls.

By | 2018-04-10T00:31:44-04:00 November 12th, 2015|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I’m a “bad” rape victim. A Model Rape Survivor doesn’t know her attacker. My rapist is essentially a stranger to me, but that night was not the first time I had met him. She is dressed modestly and cannot be held responsible due to those clothing choices. I wore one of my shortest dresses and no bra when I walked into his apartment. She’s virginal and chaste, only doing the appropriate sexual things with appropriate people. I considered myself a virgin at the time, though I’m sure other people might disagree, but I’d gone to his place to mess around in the first place.

Here goes everything

By | 2018-04-10T00:16:29-04:00 September 3rd, 2015|Categories: For Activists, For Supporters, Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , |

I discovered the Wikipedia page for asexuality in January of 2008. By September of the same year, I had PTSD. These two facts are not unrelated. The story is sickeningly cliche, to be honest. Young Queenie discovers asexuality a month and a half into her first romantic relationship. When she comes out to her boyfriend, he tells her, “You’re not asexual; we just haven’t tried the right things yet.” Young Queenie doesn’t have enough knowledge or self-confidence to stand her ground. Boyfriend pushes at her boundaries, seeing how far he can overstep them before Queenie freaks out and throws him off her or…

Challenges faced by asexual spectrum survivors of sexual violence (part 3)

By | 2018-04-12T00:49:31-04:00 August 6th, 2015|Categories: Education, For Activists, For Professionals, For Supporters, Rape Culture|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

This series focuses on awful things people say to asexual spectrum survivors, sometimes out of spite, sometimes out of concern, and sometimes out of ignorance. Each section has a quote (or collection of related quotes) followed by a "translation" of the quote (or a distillation of the essence of the argument, if you will) and then commentary on why this is an awful thing to say.