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the trauma i never knew i had: navigating childhood trauma 29 years after the fact

By | 2018-04-09T22:11:09-04:00 July 8th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

This post is by Vesper, reposted here with the permission of the author.  You can read the original post here. content warning: explicit talk of childhood sexual abuse & religous trauma without going into detail; explicit mentions of acephobia, biphobia, homophobia this is one of two posts that i’m going to [...]

Bi/pan, trans, mental illness, and autism intersections in my abuse.

By | 2018-04-09T23:03:16-04:00 July 5th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This is a guest post for our intersectional ace survivor story series by someone who wishes to remain anonymous. Please respect their privacy and do not speculate about their identity. Trigger warnings: intimate partner abuse, gaslighting, invalidation of ace identity, mentions of CoCSA and parental abuse, personality disorders […]

Spanish translation of Info Sheet for Health Professionals now available

By | 2016-07-02T23:26:47-04:00 July 3rd, 2016|Categories: Announcements, Education, For Professionals|

Resources for Ace Survivors is proud to present a new Spanish translation of our Basics of Asexuality for Health Professionals printable information sheet. You can download and print the translation from your home printer. We encourage you to consider distributing it where you can! Resources for Ace Survivors se enorgullece en presentar la traducción al español de nuestra hoja explicativa con Información Básica sobre Asexualidad para Profesionales de la Salud. Puedes descargar e imprimir la traducción aquí (tamaño 8x11" o A4). ¡Te alentamos a distribuirla donde puedas!

Components of Resilience: Creativity & Adaptability

By | 2018-04-09T02:03:54-04:00 June 30th, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This is part four of a series of posts dedicated to breaking down components of resilience. The series is an elaboration on a post I made in 2015, continued now as part of the June 2016 Carnival of Aces on Resiliency. In part one of this series, I covered tenacity. In part [...]

Components of Resilience: Support Network & Discernment

By | 2018-04-09T23:28:10-04:00 June 29th, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

Support networks are a crucial part of resilience, and may even perhaps be the most important factor. It's not hard to find evidence of the health impacts of isolation or the protective effects of having supportive community. Those with strong support networks are less likely to develop PTSD and among those who still do, good support is likely to significantly reduce symptom severity. In order to have a healthy support network, you need to be able to recognize what healthy relationships look like. If you can't recognize when a relationship is becoming unhealthy, you can't take steps to keep yourself safe. Discernment is the skill of perceiving, understanding, and exercising good judgment. A person with "discerning tastes" is someone who has strong preferences about aesthetic quality, like a gourmand. The psychological use of the term is much broader—it is more related to perception and decision-making in general.

Intersections: Being a Disabled, Non-Binary, Autistic, & Ace Survivor

By | 2018-04-09T22:56:12-04:00 June 28th, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Being non-binary makes things really hard. Almost all of the help for victims of sexual assault are gendered. The general mental health care professionals are fine with my asexuality at first — but as soon as I bring up what happened it becomes something to be cured.

Components of Resilience: Affect Management & Positive Frameworks

By | 2018-04-09T02:44:42-04:00 June 25th, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

This is part two of a series of posts dedicated to breaking down components of resilience. The series is an elaboration on a post I made in 2015, and is continued now as part of the June 2016 Carnival of Aces on Resiliency. In part one, I introduced the series [...]

Components of Resilience: Tenacity

By | 2018-04-09T23:28:37-04:00 June 23rd, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , |

Have you ever gone through a time where things just keep coming? Where you keep getting knocked down, over and over and over again, every time you try to stand back up and start over? That's me this past year. I don't really feel tenacious. I feel more like I'm under-leveled. And the only way to level up is just by grinding. Boring, frustrating grinding. Here's the thing that I think people are apt to misunderstand about tenacity: It's not about never falling, or about how long you stay on the ground after you fall. That doesn't matter. It's just about getting back up, and trying again.

Resilience through fiction, or that time I wrote a vampire novel that was secretly about trauma

By | 2018-04-09T02:13:44-04:00 June 21st, 2016|Categories: Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

This post is for the June 2016 Carnival of Aces, which is on the topic of “Resiliency.” Content warnings: discussion of trauma and violence (sexual and not), mentions of substance abuse and suicidality and self-harm, all in the context of talking about a work of fiction Between 2008 and 2011 I [...]

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