People seem to think that therapeutic art is always about expressing your pain and negative feelings. While drawing out images of exactly what the pain and terror of abuse feels like can be cathartic and hugely helpful, art that is about joy, comfort, beauty and color can act as a sort of refuge.Details
Here at Resources for Ace Survivors, we are working on a project to create a registry of ace-competent therapists, as well as resources to educate them. We’re calling this the Ace-Competent Therapists Project. Please see our Projects page for more information.
We will also be working to create resources to help you find the right therapist.
In the meantime, here are some links that might help:
- Asexuality: Basics for Health Professionals (8×11 pdf) – a printable info sheet that you can give to your therapist about the basics, so that you don’t have to do all that 101 education work yourself
- How to shop for a therapist
- Advice on finding a therapist who is more likely to be aware of asexuality
- Dealing with Acephobia From Therapists, part 1
- Setting boundaries with your therapist
Remember, it’s okay to refuse therapy! Sometimes, therapy does more harm than good—every time you try a new therapist, you are rolling the dice. Sometimes you get someone who will only compound your trauma. It’s okay to be unwilling to take that risk. By doing so, you are protecting yourself in the best way you know how.
There are alternative ways to recover. As always, we will be collecting resources to help in our Recovery section.
The Icarus Project is a support network for people who experience the world in ways often diagnosed as mental illness; you may find it helpful to use that resource to create your own roadmap to recovery.
Medical professionals of all kinds are well known for abusing every marginalized group known to humanity, and therapists are no exception. But we are told to get over it or told to “find another doctor.”
So for all of the people out there who feel that therapy is toxic: I’m making room for your narrative in the survivor discourse. It’s okay to refuse therapy. It’s okay to be hostile towards medical personnel, especially when they have abused you. It’s okay to talk about your horrible experiences with therapy.Details