Every other Saturday we will post links relevant to survivors. (My apologies for being a few days late in posting this, and for not posting a question on Friday. I had some unexpected difficulties this past weekend that ended up keeping me away from my computer. I am fine though, so don’t worry!)
Please feel free to discuss these links in the comments, or post more links! Trigger warnings appreciated, and self-promotion welcome.
Blanket trigger warning for all of these posts.
Ace Community & LGBTQ
There is a survey for LGBTQ survivors, and asexuality is an option on the survey. (However, other asexual-spectrum identities are write-in only.) The survey is run by Loveisrespect and the National LGBTQ DV Capacity Building Learning Center. You can take the survey here.
Coyote wrote “Is this abuse?”: A Guide for Aces, started a thread for brainstorming advice for therapists treating ace clients, and compiled a list of Examples of Bad Ace Advice. The bad advice post has had several responses and back-and-forth comments from ace advice blogs, which you can find from browsing through other posts and comments on Coyote’s blog if you’re interested.
Hezekiah made a linkspam on asexual identity prescriptivism.
Trauma & Treatment
At the RFAS tumblr, an anon asked for advice about wandering in the middle of the night while dissociating. If anyone has ideas that may help, please feel free to comment on tumblr, comment here, or send them in to us so that we can pass it along.
Olivia wrote about how neurotypicality is not the goal of treatment for autistics (or any other client), and therapists need to communicate with clients about goals rather than make assumptions. [tw: nonconsensual treatment mentions] She also addressed the common argument about spanking that “my parents spanked me and I turned out fine.” [tw: implications of child abuse, reasoning of abusers]
Miri explained that being extra-nice to abusers doesn’t stop abuse.
If you are a medical marijuana patient in Michigan, be careful. Michigan prosecutors are pressuring state crime labs to falsify their reports so that they can wrongfully charge patients with felony possession of “synthetic THC” (as opposed to THC derived from a plant). [tw: link contains mention of suicide, loss of child custody]
H.R. 2646 is a questionable bill introduced to the United States Congress by Tim Murphy (R), called “Murphy’s law,” aimed at mental health reform—background information here. At Mad in America, Sarah Knutson speaks out against the Murphy bill, arguing that it would restrict patients’ civil rights even further in an already broken system. [tw: forced institutionalization, medical and therapist abuse]
There was some discussion at SCaR about why the “Netflix and chill” meme is really triggering. [tw: mentions of how a rape happened, assumptions about consent]
Rape Culture & Abuse
The following links are important, but especially disturbing, so they are hidden behind a spoiler tag; please take care of yourself if you decide to click through. These links include mentions of transphobia, misogynoir, and police brutality in addition to discussions of rape trials and CSA.
Treva Lindsey wrote about the Daniel Holtzclaw rape trial [tw: rape, rape culture, misogynoir, police brutality], which has received astonishingly little attention:
The lack of mass media coverage of the investigation of and trial for Holtzclaw emerges from the unique intersection of racism and sexism in the lives of black women. Historically and contemporarily, the victimization of black women in the U.S. through sexual and other forms of violence does not incite a widespread call to action. With the notable exception of black women bloggers, journalists, and scholars documenting the investigation and the trial as well as a handful of news outlets covering the basic details of the case, there has been a deafening silence around a demand for justice for the black women who came forward. There is no nationally trending hashtag conveying the gravity of crimes allegedly committed by Holtzclaw while on duty. This is, however, “A Justice For Daniel Holtzclaw” Facebook page that attracts new likes and followers every day. Where is the uproar?
Jessica Valenti wrote about how the rape reporting system is rigged to let predators go free.
Transphobic opponents of HERO (Houston’s Equal Rights Ordinance) used the rape of a child politically to stir up enough hatred towards trans people to defeat HERO, but they do not actually care about rape prevention. [tw: extremely heinous victim-blaming of the child by police officers, seriously mind your triggers, folks]