Friday Question – Time

Friday Question – Time

By | 2016-04-01T16:18:31-05:00 January 1st, 2016|Categories: Questions|Tags: , |0 Comments

The Friday Question: How it works

Every Friday we will pose a question for you all to discuss or privately consider. You can engage with it publicly here on the RFAS blog, or you can join our forum (details below) for a more private discussion. You can write it down to think about later, journal about it, or bring it in to a therapy session with you.

If you would like to volunteer to become a moderator and host future Questions, please email us at volunteer@asexualsurvivors.org—or join our forum and post in the moderator volunteer thread. If you just have an idea for a future Question that you want to share, we have a brainstorming topic on our forum.

Something to Ponder Today

(As it is the start of a new calendar year, I’d invite everyone to go back to the December questions that revolve a lot around family, assertion and accomplishments, if you’re the type to think about new year resolutions.)

The passage of time in general can be worth thinking about. Our relationship to the world around us is always changing, as we change and the world changes. It’s important to remember that it is okay to hold onto and let go of things as we are able, to feel alternately out of control and in control of where we are going and where we have been.

Take a moment to contemplate your year in review — how do you feel about it?

  • What is your relationship with the past, present and future? Do you feel like you’re living more in one time than another?
  • Do you feel your age, older or younger? What does getting older mean for you?
  • How do you cope with feeling like you’re running out of time for something?
  • Do you feel it is beneficial for you to “live in the now”?
  • How do you feel you fit into or outside of this time in culture and history?
  • What are you looking forward to this year?
  • What are you dreading this year? How can you make these things more bearable?
  • What are some things you want to remember about the past or keep in mind for the future?
  • What would you like to change or keep the same about yourself or your life?

You don’t have to answer every (or any!) question, of course. These are just different ways to approach the topic which might be helpful to consider. You can share as much or as little as you like.

On the Forum

Please note that we are still working things out in the forum, especially technical issues. We are gradually letting people in now who are not moderators or volunteers, but it can basically be considered “in beta” for now. So if you do join, please excuse our forum being a bit of a mess while we get everything tested. There may also be a little bit of a wait time for sending out invites.

Here are a couple of things you should know about posting to the forum:

  • All posts are private, and can only be viewed by members
  • It is against forum rules to discuss any personal stories shared on the forum with anyone who is not a member without permission of the person who shared it
  • You can post as anonymous, once you are a member

The Spoiler Tag

You can hide especially triggering details behind a spoiler tag—which also works in blog comments. Here’s an example:

[spoiler title=’Triggering stuff’ collapse_link=’true’]Explicit/triggering material would go here.[/spoiler]

To make one, just type…

[ spoiler ] ... [ /spoiler ]

…without the spaces. I hope that this helps everyone safely navigate this conversation.

About the Author:

Bethany is an ace survivor who lives in Minnesota and studies gerontology. She has published feminist nonfiction work in online literary magazines, and she also posts writing prompts for assault survivors at http://expressingsurvivorship.tumblr.com.

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