Every other Saturday we will post links relevant to survivors. Please feel free to discuss these links in the comments, or post more links! Trigger warnings appreciated, and self-promotion welcome.
Blanket trigger warning for all of these posts.
We have started a new regular discussion feature here at RFAS. The first topic is on dealing with toxic communities. Please join in if you are so inclined!
What is EMDR? It’s a relatively obscure type of therapy treatment for trauma. It could be a better alternative for those who find that CBT or DBT is the wrong approach for them.
‘I’m No Longer Afrad’: 35 Women Tell Their Stories about Being Assaulted by Bill Cosby, and the Culture that Wouldn’t Listen – A powerful collection featuring portraits of each woman, and one of an empty chair representing those who have decided not to come forward. It is a really awe-inspiring piece, but of course it does contain graphic descriptions of many assaults, so proceed with caution!
There’s an article on Everyday Feminism about how to keep yourself safe when you’re not ready to leave an abusive partner.
Two great articles at The Body is Not an Apology: Surviving PTSD: The Beginning of Healing, and Why I Don’t Want to Talk About It: When Sharing Becomes Self-Harm.
- 10 Things I Wish I’d Known About Gaslighting gives a really in-depth exploration of what gaslighting is and how it can work.
- Shutting Off the Gaslight explains how pervasive and long-lasting the effects of gaslighting often are.
Stephanie Svan wrote about Abuse and Power in Activist Spaces. A good compliment to the discussions of all the issues cropping up in the ace community as of late.
An article at Feministing highlights how an affirmative consent law has changed one student’s behavior.
Cracked ran an article featuring an anonymous perpetrator entitled 5 Things I Learned Committing Campus Sexual Assault. Among other things, it talks about how “even perpetrators can find victim-blaming ridiculous,” and says the perpetrator even wanted certain details left out of the article, because “He knew your mind might go there, and we’re telling you, the guy who actually assaulted her disagrees with you.”
Benny Vimes wrote about consent: how it’s often framed as a miscommunication, and how often people tolerate violations of consent instead of speaking up to make it clear that someone is acting inappropriately.