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Resilience through fiction, or that time I wrote a vampire novel that was secretly about trauma

By | 2018-04-09T02:13:44-04:00 June 21st, 2016|Categories: Coping Strategies, Recovery, Resilience|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

This post is for the June 2016 Carnival of Aces, which is on the topic of “Resiliency.” Content warnings: discussion of trauma and violence (sexual and not), mentions of substance abuse and suicidality and self-harm, all in the context of talking about a work of fiction Between 2008 and 2011 I [...]

Hermeneutical Injustice in Consent and Asexuality

By | 2018-04-09T23:50:45-04:00 June 9th, 2016|Categories: Compulsory Sexuality, Education, For Activists|Tags: , , |

I was introduced to the concept of hermeneutical injustice a couple days ago and it’s been blowing my mind. I’ve been struggling for a while to reconcile consent and asexuality, specifically in the context where asexuality isn’t known. If asexuality isn’t an option, how can someone’s consent be truly free?

survivour ace – ace survivour?

By | 2018-04-09T23:45:00-04:00 May 31st, 2016|Categories: Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , |

I had no other way to frame my experiences but to think that it was all caused by the trauma - I even feared I might be traumatised before I remembered anything, simply because I didn’t know my aro-aceness could have been “caused” by anything else.

Friday Question – Survivor Skills

By | 2016-04-29T14:15:42-04:00 April 29th, 2016|Categories: Questions|Tags: , , , |

Every Friday we will pose a question for you all to discuss or privately consider. You can engage with it publicly here on the RFAS blog, or you can join our forum (details below) for a more private discussion. You can write it down to think about later, journal about it, or bring it in to a therapy session with you.

Friday Question: Awareness

By | 2016-04-09T23:11:50-04:00 April 9th, 2016|Categories: Questions|Tags: , , |

Every Friday we will pose a question for you all to discuss or privately consider. You can engage with it publicly here on the RFAS blog, or you can join our forum (details below) for a more private discussion. You can write it down to think about later, journal about it, or bring it in to a therapy session with you.

Friday Question – Feeling Foolish

By | 2016-04-01T17:35:38-04:00 April 1st, 2016|Categories: Questions|

Today is April Fool's Day, where people try to trick each other into falling for jokes. Sometimes, these jokes are fairly harmless and can be pretty funny. Other times, pranks can be very mean and damage our trust in the people around us—sometimes our identities might even be treated as if they are a joke. Some people feel that, particularly in the case of parents pranking children, that such pranks will almost always harm the sense of safety and trust that kids should have towards their parents. Even when it's supposed to be light-hearted fun, the implementation of the joke can do some serious harm: today, Google's April Fool's prank backfired horribly and even caused some people to lose their jobs. As survivors, we've all had to deal with betrayal, and for many of us, that leaves us with a sense of feeling foolish or "dumb"* and judging ourselves for having fallen for it. Thus, times when we are faced with pranks may end up bringing up these aspects of trauma and making it hard to get through the day. How do you feel about being fooled?

Friday Question – Likely Scenarios

By | 2016-04-01T16:12:44-04:00 March 25th, 2016|Categories: Questions|Tags: , |

It is normal to worry about how something might go – a test, meeting someone new, trying a new food, anything. But it is important to not build up a lot of anxiety and stress over all of the potential horrible ways it could go wrong. Here’s a little “imaginary reality” activity that might help give you some perspective.

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