Personal Narratives

I don’t want to call it CSA

By | 2018-04-09T22:33:57-04:00 September 23rd, 2016|Categories: Abuse, By & For Ace Survivors, Child Sexual Abuse, Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , , |

My culture gives us very specific narratives of sexual violence — a short script, narrow roles, cardboard characters with tightly scripted lines that don't account for the diversity of reality.  Any deviation from the imposed mold feels "fake."  The way I figure, the more you hear the real stories that don't follow that short script, the easier it might be discard it altogether.

the trauma i never knew i had: navigating childhood trauma 29 years after the fact

By | 2018-04-09T22:11:09-04:00 July 8th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

This post is by Vesper, reposted here with the permission of the author.  You can read the original post here. content warning: explicit talk of childhood sexual abuse & religous trauma without going into detail; explicit mentions of acephobia, biphobia, homophobia this is one of two posts that i’m going to [...]

Bi/pan, trans, mental illness, and autism intersections in my abuse.

By | 2018-04-09T23:03:16-04:00 July 5th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This is a guest post for our intersectional ace survivor story series by someone who wishes to remain anonymous. Please respect their privacy and do not speculate about their identity. Trigger warnings: intimate partner abuse, gaslighting, invalidation of ace identity, mentions of CoCSA and parental abuse, personality disorders […]

Intersections: Being a Disabled, Non-Binary, Autistic, & Ace Survivor

By | 2018-04-09T22:56:12-04:00 June 28th, 2016|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

Being non-binary makes things really hard. Almost all of the help for victims of sexual assault are gendered. The general mental health care professionals are fine with my asexuality at first — but as soon as I bring up what happened it becomes something to be cured.

survivour ace – ace survivour?

By | 2018-04-09T23:45:00-04:00 May 31st, 2016|Categories: Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , |

I had no other way to frame my experiences but to think that it was all caused by the trauma - I even feared I might be traumatised before I remembered anything, simply because I didn’t know my aro-aceness could have been “caused” by anything else.

Hyper-kink-mode

By | 2018-04-09T23:19:04-04:00 November 26th, 2015|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

It’s a weird feeling, to suddenly need certain kink things, to have a sudden craving so strong it suggests sometimes dangerous lengths and abandonment of boundaries and safety practices. I never know how long these things’ll last. Sometimes it’s just a day, sometimes it’s months. And it sure doesn’t feel like it will ever stop. (It’s everywhere and everywhen, how could it stop?) And it can be years in-between, and I can forget how to handle them, get out of practice, lose all my contacts and coping strategies. I don’t expect it to happen again.

a revolution for the crooked souls.

By | 2018-04-10T00:31:44-04:00 November 12th, 2015|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , |

I’m a “bad” rape victim. A Model Rape Survivor doesn’t know her attacker. My rapist is essentially a stranger to me, but that night was not the first time I had met him. She is dressed modestly and cannot be held responsible due to those clothing choices. I wore one of my shortest dresses and no bra when I walked into his apartment. She’s virginal and chaste, only doing the appropriate sexual things with appropriate people. I considered myself a virgin at the time, though I’m sure other people might disagree, but I’d gone to his place to mess around in the first place.

Asexuality, hypothyroidism, and PTSD

By | 2018-04-10T01:21:26-04:00 September 23rd, 2015|Categories: Asexuality & Mental Health, By & For Ace Survivors, Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , |

The only reason they found out that I have hypothyroidism at all is because I decided to try some medication for PTSD, so they screened me for it. PTSD shares some of the same symptoms—poor memory and concentration, depression, and fatigue (from PTSD affecting the quality of sleep). Some of my other symptoms could have been explained by other factors, too. So I think it went undiagnosed for a long time.

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