CSA

I don’t want to call it CSA

By | 2018-04-09T22:33:57-04:00 September 23rd, 2016|Categories: Abuse, By & For Ace Survivors, Child Sexual Abuse, Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , , |

My culture gives us very specific narratives of sexual violence — a short script, narrow roles, cardboard characters with tightly scripted lines that don't account for the diversity of reality.  Any deviation from the imposed mold feels "fake."  The way I figure, the more you hear the real stories that don't follow that short script, the easier it might be discard it altogether.

the trauma i never knew i had: navigating childhood trauma 29 years after the fact

By | 2018-04-09T22:11:09-04:00 July 8th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

This post is by Vesper, reposted here with the permission of the author.  You can read the original post here. content warning: explicit talk of childhood sexual abuse & religous trauma without going into detail; explicit mentions of acephobia, biphobia, homophobia this is one of two posts that i’m going to [...]

Bi/pan, trans, mental illness, and autism intersections in my abuse.

By | 2018-04-09T23:03:16-04:00 July 5th, 2016|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , |

This is a guest post for our intersectional ace survivor story series by someone who wishes to remain anonymous. Please respect their privacy and do not speculate about their identity. Trigger warnings: intimate partner abuse, gaslighting, invalidation of ace identity, mentions of CoCSA and parental abuse, personality disorders […]

survivour ace – ace survivour?

By | 2018-04-09T23:45:00-04:00 May 31st, 2016|Categories: Personal Narratives, Sharing|Tags: , , , |

I had no other way to frame my experiences but to think that it was all caused by the trauma - I even feared I might be traumatised before I remembered anything, simply because I didn’t know my aro-aceness could have been “caused” by anything else.

Ace Survivors as Rhetorical Devices (part four): Avoiding Using Ace Survivors Rhetorically

By | 2018-04-10T02:03:03-04:00 November 19th, 2015|Categories: Education, For Activists, For Supporters|Tags: , , |

In the last two posts I’ve outlined two of the major ways in which ace survivors are used as rhetorical devices--by using them to win political arguments and by creating a monolithic narrative of The Way Sexual Violence Happens to Aces. If you’ve read this far, you might be worrying about whether you’ve done either of these things in your own writing. You might be wondering how to avoid using aces as rhetorical devices while still writing forceful, argumentative pieces. This part is for you.

Ace Survivors as Rhetorical Devices (part three): The One True Narrative of Sexual Violence Against Aces

By | 2018-04-10T01:56:58-04:00 November 5th, 2015|Categories: Education, For Activists, For Supporters|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

In this post I’m going to discuss the way bloggers construct The One True Narrative of The Way Sexual Violence Happens to Aces. This can take several forms.  First, the author may assume that all ace survivors fit into a particular narrative of sexual violence (usually corrective rape by an allosexual romantic partner). Second, the author may acknowledge that sexual violence against aces may happen in multiple ways, but may highlight one way as more important or “real” than the rest.

Violence Our Own Minds Play Out

By | 2018-04-09T02:55:14-04:00 August 18th, 2015|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Personal Narratives|Tags: , , , , , , , , |

Sometimes we visit violence upon ourselves, not just by intentionally harming ourselves or putting ourselves in dangerous situations, but by perverting things we enjoy or letting our mind run away with our feelings. It’s important to recognize the violence our own mind is playing out and address it, or else our mind wanders away.

Challenges faced by asexual spectrum survivors of sexual violence (part 3)

By | 2018-04-12T00:49:31-04:00 August 6th, 2015|Categories: Education, For Activists, For Professionals, For Supporters, Rape Culture|Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , |

This series focuses on awful things people say to asexual spectrum survivors, sometimes out of spite, sometimes out of concern, and sometimes out of ignorance. Each section has a quote (or collection of related quotes) followed by a "translation" of the quote (or a distillation of the essence of the argument, if you will) and then commentary on why this is an awful thing to say.

Challenges faced by asexual spectrum survivors of sexual violence (part 2)

By | 2018-04-12T00:50:24-04:00 July 30th, 2015|Categories: Education, For Activists, For Professionals, For Supporters|Tags: , , , , , , , , , |

This series focuses on awful things people say to asexual spectrum survivors, sometimes out of spite, sometimes out of concern, and sometimes out of ignorance. Each section has a quote (or collection of related quotes) followed by a "translation" of the quote (or a distillation of the essence of the argument, if you will) and then commentary on why this is an awful thing to say.

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