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a revolution for the crooked souls.
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a revolution for the crooked souls.

a revolution for the crooked souls.

By Guest Post| 2018-04-10T00:31:44-04:00 November 12th, 2015|Categories: Intersectional Issues, Personal Narratives|Tags: acephobia, amatonormativity, cissexism, compulsory sexuality, heteronormativity, hypersexual, identity policing, model rape survivor, rape, rape culture, requiesromantic, requiessexual, self-harm, sex as self-harm, sex-aversion, unassailable asexual, victim blaming|

I’m a “bad” rape victim. A Model Rape Survivor doesn’t know her attacker. My rapist is essentially a stranger to me, but that night was not the first time I had met him. She is dressed modestly and cannot be held responsible due to those clothing choices. I wore one of my shortest dresses and no bra when I walked into his apartment. She’s virginal and chaste, only doing the appropriate sexual things with appropriate people. I considered myself a virgin at the time, though I’m sure other people might disagree, but I’d gone to his place to mess around in the first place.

Disingenuous, Shallow “Support”

By Elizabeth| 2018-04-10T00:17:57-04:00 August 20th, 2015|Categories: Domestic Violence, For Activists, For Supporters, Rape Culture|Tags: asexual perpetrators, co-opting language of consent, domestic violence, facebook activism, gaslighting, hugo schwyzer, intra-community violence, macktivists, manipulation, NFL, rape culture, shallow support|

Ah, yes. Facebook Activism. Because sharing something on Facebook for others to automatically click "like" without even reading is clearly the most effective way to promote real engagement with anti-violence work, and genuine support to survivors. The idea that a brand is all that's needed to get others to care, rather than something that is just there for others to adopt in order to look like they care, is so incredibly vile to me. Why? Because it's exactly the sort of thing that makes it easier for abusers to gaslight their victims.

Challenges faced by asexual spectrum survivors of sexual violence (part 1)

By Queenie| 2018-04-12T00:45:21-04:00 July 23rd, 2015|Categories: Compulsory Sexuality, Education, For Activists, For Professionals, For Supporters, Rape Culture|Tags: ace community, awful things people say, challenges faced by ace survivors series, coercion, compromise, compulsory sexuality, corrective rape, CSA, rape culture, sexuality policing, victim blaming|

This series focuses on awful things people say to asexual spectrum survivors of sexual violence, sometimes out of spite, sometimes out of concern, and sometimes out of ignorance. Each section has a quote (or collection of related quotes) followed by a "translation" of the quote (or a distillation of the essence of the argument, if you will) and then commentary on why this is an awful thing to say (and suggestions for things you can say instead).