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Friday Question – Survivor Skills

By | April 29th, 2016|

Every Friday we will pose a question for you all to discuss or privately consider. You can engage with it publicly here on the RFAS blog, or you can join our forum (details below) for a more private discussion. You can write it down to think about later, journal about it, or bring it in to a therapy session with you.

Friday Question: Awareness

By | April 9th, 2016|

Every Friday we will pose a question for you all to discuss or privately consider. You can engage with it publicly here on the RFAS blog, or you can join our forum (details below) for a more private discussion. You can write it down to think about later, journal about it, or bring it in to a therapy session with you.

Friday Question – Feeling Foolish

By | April 1st, 2016|

Today is April Fool's Day, where people try to trick each other into falling for jokes. Sometimes, these jokes are fairly harmless and can be pretty funny. Other times, pranks can be very mean and damage our trust in the people around us—sometimes our identities might even be treated as if they are a joke. Some people feel that, particularly in the case of parents pranking children, that such pranks will almost always harm the sense of safety and trust that kids should have towards their parents. Even when it's supposed to be light-hearted fun, the implementation of the joke can do some serious harm: today, Google's April Fool's prank backfired horribly and even caused some people to lose their jobs. As survivors, we've all had to deal with betrayal, and for many of us, that leaves us with a sense of feeling foolish or "dumb"* and judging ourselves for having fallen for it. Thus, times when we are faced with pranks may end up bringing up these aspects of trauma and making it hard to get through the day. How do you feel about being fooled?

Friday Question – Likely Scenarios

By | March 25th, 2016|

It is normal to worry about how something might go – a test, meeting someone new, trying a new food, anything. But it is important to not build up a lot of anxiety and stress over all of the potential horrible ways it could go wrong. Here’s a little “imaginary reality” activity that might help give you some perspective.

Friday Question – Burnout

By | March 18th, 2016|

How do you deal with burnout? - Do you personally have a way that works best for you? Have you tried anything that hasn't worked out well for you? - Do you think that the way that you typically handle burnout is healthy, or do you feel that you tend to resort to unhealthy coping methods? - Does burnout, for you, feel triggering in some way? If so, is it an overt (or obvious) trigger, or a covert trigger (one that you do not or had not realized is a trigger)? - Are there triggers that come up for you when you're feeling burned out that aren't directly related, but are heavily influenced by being burned out in some way? - What is it that you think makes the ace community more prone to experiencing burnout?

Friday Question – Co-Feelings

By | January 29th, 2016|

Our feelings often play an important role in the decisions we make and the things we do and how we feel about doing them. It’s important to feel in control of these feelings, or at least recognize what they are, and what we can do while we are feeling certain ways. It’s important to recognize that the multitude of things we have feelings about, and the multitude of feelings we can have, can be confusing. Do you ever feel like you have to limit yourself to one emotion? Why?

Friday Question – Time

By | January 1st, 2016|

The passage of time in general can be worth thinking about. Our relationship to the world around us is always changing, as we change and the world changes. It’s important to remember that it is okay to hold onto and let go of things as we are able, to feel alternately out of control and in control of where we are going and where we have been. Take a moment to contemplate your year in review — how do you feel about it?

Friday Question – Yes and No

By | December 18th, 2015|

Verbal assertion affects many parts of our lives. Whether we want to speak or voice an opinion, whether it be raising a hand to propose an answer to a complex problem or refusing a drink refill, it can be momentarily panicking to make a decision. We make so many decisions every day, more than we can probably mentally spend time being conscious of. Many things we choose to do are automatic. Others we think about very carefully. It can be just as hard to give or refuse yourself permission to do something, as it can be to give or refuse someone else permission to do something. Understanding the scope of the power of our words, our right to speak, and our right to set boundaries and be respected — that is a beginning foundation of successful communication.

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