Maybe one barrier to identifying positive coping skills is that when people ask "how do you cope?" in general, without specifying any kind of situation or feeling that we're coping with, it doesn't paint a concrete enough picture in our minds for the things that we do in different situations to become clear. So I think it may be helpful instead to have a specific situation or feeling in mind that you're trying to cope with, and write down ways that help you deal with just that particular case.
What are the coping skills you use when...?
- You feel depressed, sad, or lonely?
- You feel angry, resentful, or frustrated?
- You feel anxious or panicked?
- You feel dissociated or have a flashback?