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Disingenuous, Shallow “Support”

Disingenuous, Shallow “Support”

By Elizabeth| 2018-04-10T00:17:57-04:00 August 20th, 2015|Categories: Domestic Violence, For Activists, For Supporters, Rape Culture|Tags: asexual perpetrators, co-opting language of consent, domestic violence, facebook activism, gaslighting, hugo schwyzer, intra-community violence, macktivists, manipulation, NFL, rape culture, shallow support|

Ah, yes. Facebook Activism. Because sharing something on Facebook for others to automatically click "like" without even reading is clearly the most effective way to promote real engagement with anti-violence work, and genuine support to survivors. The idea that a brand is all that's needed to get others to care, rather than something that is just there for others to adopt in order to look like they care, is so incredibly vile to me. Why? Because it's exactly the sort of thing that makes it easier for abusers to gaslight their victims.

When Sexual Abuse Comes in the Form of Words

By Raven| 2018-04-10T00:09:55-04:00 July 28th, 2015|Categories: By & For Ace Survivors, Child Sexual Abuse, Coping Strategies, Personal Narratives, Self Care, Sexual Harassment, Verbal Abuse|Tags: body shaming, coping strategies, CSA, self care, sex positivity, sexual harassment, techniques to try, verbal abuse|

One aspect of CSA that I don't see discussed very often is sexually charged verbal abuse. My experience with this is as a CSA survivor specifically, but I could also see where it could potentially be an issue for adult survivors of sexual violence well. In my own experience, the sexualized verbal abuse I was subjected to has actually been one of the hardest aspects to recover from long term.

Why It’s Okay to Refuse Therapy

By Storm| 2018-04-10T02:11:07-04:00 June 30th, 2015|Categories: Abuse, Asexuality & Mental Health, By & For Ace Survivors, Education, For Professionals, Medical & Therapist Abuse, Personal Narratives, Sharing, Therapy|Tags: ableism, conversion therapy, gatekeeping, medical abuse, therapist abuse, therapy, toxic therapy|

Medical professionals of all kinds are well known for abusing every marginalized group known to humanity, and therapists are no exception. But we are told to get over it or told to "find another doctor." So for all of the people out there who feel that therapy is toxic: I'm making room for your narrative in the survivor discourse. It's okay to refuse therapy. It's okay to be hostile towards medical personnel, especially when they have abused you. It's okay to talk about your horrible experiences with therapy.